Migraines, Women and Intimacy

We all have heard the saying, "Not tonight, I have a headache" before.  Every husband or boyfriend hates when we say it.  Many women use the "headache" as a scapegoat for sex when they are not in the mood.  It's been overused to the point where it's become a joke.  But for the women who suffer from migraine disease who experience true headaches for days at a time, when we say, "I have a headache," it's the truth.  Unlike the women who use headaches to not be intimate, we genuinely want to be close with our spouses or partners, but the pain gets in the way.  Headaches give us a bad rap.

I know that I feel so bad when I can't show my affection through intimacy because I've had a week-long migraine.  Especially since my husband does all that he can to make me feel better despite his hectic schedule.  I often go ahead, knowing it will probably make me feel worse, but why should he suffer?  It's a terrible predicament to be in.  We want to satisfy our partners, not deprive them.  I often feel guilty that his wife has many medical issues that interfere with our sex life.  I want to show him how much I love him, but it isn't easy when you have throbbing, stabbing pain in your head and feel so nauseated that you want to die.

I'm curious to see if anyone feels the way I do about this subject.  I've never seen or heard it talked about, and it came to mind as I lay in pain last night. Like so many other things that migraine affects, this is no exception.  We become constrained by this disease, which can alter many aspects of daily living.  Many subjects aren't approached when it comes to migraines, so I thought I would open the door on this particular one.  Please chime in and let me know if this is a problem.  As for the women who say they have a headache when they really don't, do us a favor and just say, "I'm not in the mood."